There is a story of Buddha.
Buddha was walking down a path with his disciple and a bystander hurled insults and abuses at the Buddha. The disciple walked up to the bystander and challenged his opinion of the Buddha.
During this discussion, Buddha walked away. The disciple soon realized this and said, “Master, I was defending you from that bystander while you walked away. He was hurling insults at you. Why did you walk away?”
The Buddha replied, “He does not know what he talks. I chose to forgive him and move on. I cannot be upset due to his lack of knowledge. Moreover, he is giving insults and I have no need for them. So I chose to move on.”
Our mental and emotional state decides how we interpret the situation around us. Our near and dear ones frequently hurt us, or so we claim. This situation is then followed with much altercations and clarifications.
One way to bypass this emotional situation is by standing apart from ourselves and making an effort to understand the nuances of the words from the speaker’s mental and emotional state. It is possible that the speaker lacks training in communication skills and has thus slipped up.
Your ability to stand apart from yourself and the situation will allow you to assess the communiqué impartially and save you from potential hurt. We can make efforts to ensure that a speaker’s communication deficiency does not upset us.
Nobody can hurt us without our permission. Words do not have any power. Control your speech and you will automatically learn how to respond to how and what others speak.
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