One of the reasons why positive thinking is difficult is because of the education system and patterns that we follow. Let me explain.
We have been conditioned to think in terms of extremes, opposites and absolutes. If a thing is not good then it must be bad. If something is not white, then it is black. If a thing is not lovable, then it is to be hated. Antonyms make good and challenging questions for children and schools, but to believe that it reflects life would be an exaggeration. Nothing in life is cut and dried like this and put into compartments.
So, let us take an example of fear of failure as a negative mindset. If we were to treat this positively, the mindset would not be that of “an assurance of success”. This is being silly and not positive. A positive way of approaching this would be “being confident of doing the best we can”. This kind of positive thinking is nurturing and not a trip to Wonderland!
The core strategy of positive thinking lies in your ability to avoid the extremes in thought. The positive thought is not necessarily an ideal state.
©Nitesh Kotecha
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